The Leftover Pieces; Suicide Loss Conversations
This podcast focuses on surviving life after a suicide loss, an experience that can be devastating and leave you feeling lost as you try to pick up the pieces of your shattered heart. The host, Melissa Bottorff-Arey, lost her 21-year-old son, Alex, to suicide on August 7, 2016, and brings (& often shares) her insights from her personal journey.
In each episode, Melissa engages in honest and challenging conversations with other survivors of loss, healers, and mental health experts. She also produces shorter solo episodes where she reflects on her own thoughts and experiences thus far. The podcast covers a wide range of relevant topics and addresses difficult questions. Melissa explores all aspects of grief, including trauma, hope, healing, self-care, legacy, and stigma. She believes that we learn to live alongside our grief rather than getting over it. Actual change comes through authentic, meaningful connections and mindful choices.
For supporters or educators, these conversations provide valuable insights and shine a light on suicide and grief genuinely and unapologetically. Listeners who are grieving a suicide loss can find comfort in the community and hope for a better tomorrow. Melissa aims to help others, like herself, transition from merely surviving to discovering a life filled with meaning and, potentially, even happiness amid the leftover pieces around you. You can always schedule a time to chat about being a guest from my main website.
[Please NOTE: This podcast is for only relational, informational, and entertainment purposes. It candidly and openly discusses sensitive and sometimes activating topics. There will be no in-depth or graphic descriptions of the method, but merely the possible mention of suicide, murder, rape, and the like. Be guided and care for yourself accordingly. Also, Melissa is not a doctor or licensed therapist, and nothing on this podcast should be taken in place of, or as, medical/mental health advice or recommendations.]
The Leftover Pieces; Suicide Loss Conversations
Grief Truth #20; August Daily Nuggets
"There is no 'getting over' grief."
Welcome, fellow griever.
This is your Daily Nugget from me, Melissa, your host of The Leftover Pieces.
Today we will share a moment of presence, a breath of truth, and a reminder.
Lean in with me ---
We’ve all heard it: “You’ll get over it.” As if loss is something we recover from, like a cold.
"There is no 'getting over' grief."
But grief is not an obstacle you climb and leave behind. It’s not a wound that disappears without a scar.
It becomes part of you—woven into the way you see the world, the way you love, the way you move through your days.
Over time, you might laugh more, cry less, feel a little lighter. But you’re not “over it.” You’re carrying it differently. You’re integrating it into a life that’s been permanently changed.
The truth is, we don’t get over grief—we grow around it.
Don’t let anyone convince you that healing means forgetting. It means learning to live fully with your love and your loss side by side.
Take this breath.
It’s yours to soften into.
The love you hold is real, and the path you walk is honored.
No one else can live this story the way you do.
I’ll return tomorrow to walk with you again.
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