The Leftover Pieces; Suicide Loss Conversations
You have found a podcast about surviving life after a suicide loss, which is nothing short of devastating, leaving you not knowing how to begin picking up the leftover pieces of your shattered heart. The host, Melissa Bottorff-Arey, who lost her 21-year-old son Alex to suicide on August 7, 2016, speaks to this from her own experiences. You will hear her have honest, hard conversations with other loss survivors, healers, and mental health experts on the podcast. She also produces shorter, solo episodes where she shares her own thoughts & experiences in this journey (thus far). She explores relevant topics and asks the hard questions. Nothing is 'off limit' as she delves into all areas of this grief, such as trauma, hope, healing, self-care, legacy & stigma. Melissa believes we learn to live alongside our grief, not get over it. We can make a difference only through authentic, meaningful connections and mindful choices. For a supporter or educator, these conversations hold nuggets of awareness and shine a spotlight on suicide and grief honestly and unapologetically. As a suicide loss griever, one can find the comfort of a community and hope for a little brighter tomorrow. Melissa wants to help others, like herself, go from surviving to finding a life with meaning, maybe even happiness, amid their own leftover pieces.
[Please NOTE: This podcast is for only relational, informational, and entertainment purposes. It candidly and openly discusses sensitive and sometimes activating topics. There will be no in-depth or graphic descriptions of the method, but merely the possible mention of suicide, murder, rape, and the like. Be guided and care for yourself accordingly. Also, Melissa is not a doctor or licensed therapist, and nothing on this podcast should be taken in place of, or as, medical/mental health advice or recommendations.]
The Leftover Pieces; Suicide Loss Conversations
Talking with Two Stepdads; Leaning Into the Love AND the Loss
Today I talk frankly with two amazing Stepdads about the loss of their stepsons by suicide and everything surrounding that loss. We often hear it said that the world 'forgets' about siblings after loss, but I think stepparents are often overlooked just as much --- if not more -- and yet they often are the ones holding us all together despite carrying their own enormous grief and pain. It was my pleasure to give them a voice and have this amazingly insightful conversation with these two men.
Dave Wiebe lives in Brandon, Manitoba, Canada with his wife, Barbara. He lost his stepson, Donavon, in November 2021 at age 16. Dave shares openly about how this shattered their lives and how they are now working actively to learn to live with this and what life looks like now as it is still evolving daily.
Garrison Arey lives in the Orlando Florida area with his wife Melissa (me) and their grand-pup Harper. He lost his oldest stepson Alex to suicide on August 7, 2016. Alex was only 21 years old and away at college and Garrison shares details about the day that changed our family forever as well as insight from the past (nearly) 7 years since Alex died.
Today we discuss things like:
- The biggest challenge they have faced since their loss.
- Emotions - of the loss but also just for men in general and how this (may) have changed the way they express their own emotions.
- Bridging the gap of having hard conversations with peers and with young men.
- Any advice they can offer .... and more
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For resources go to my Resource Page HERE
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